Much of what is contained in this post about things you should never share on Facebook are common sense but sometimes that’s what we forget so easily.
1. Home Address
My Home Address Is…..
Your home address is currency to many people.
a) Some harvest it and sell it to other marketers.
b) Others use it for their own marketing efforts.
a) You start getting phonee calls from marketing agents.
b) Your inbox gets full of junk email as does your snail mail.
c) Salesmen find your door after 10 years of living at your address.
a) Giving away your schedule and location for any period of the day is a blessing to a criminal.
It helps to establish our routines like when we leave home for work or other activities and arrive back home.
It gives them vital information about when go on holiday, away for the weekend or overnight, or even just out for an evening.
If a criminal knows you are away even for a relatively short time then they can invade your property.
b) You don’t even have to give your full address phone and email, to enable a criminal to strike.
Some nickname their home on Facebook status updates (eg “The Haven”, “Cougar Heaven” or The “Mancave”.)
If you then refer to that place by the same name in one of the growing list of Check In sites that you can subscribe to on the Internet. For example Apple GPS; Google Maps, or GPS Essential, etc. All it takes is someone on the same service as you to see you posting from your nicknamed home and associate it with your status update. For example a friend called his house No Wheels. He would often status himself on Facebook.
“Home at No Wheels”, or “stuck in Sydney, No Wheels lonely tonight”.
He was broken into six times before he stopped giving that kind of information.
How About A Roadmap?
c) When you give your friends a video tour of your new loft or your suburban dream home, you are giving criminals a room by room map of your place. Now they don’t even need to put on the lights.
A rule of thumb I have employed is to:
- Report my activities on Facebook after the event as a public announcement.
- Limit personal posts to Close Friends and Family.
See how to redefine who is a friend, an aquaintance or close friend or family by going to this article.
2. Stuff about your kids
This needs to be considered at two levels.
Information you post about your kids can expose them to danger from people who may have a real or imagined grievance against you.
a) There are verifiable reports of kids being bullied at school at the behest of relatives in dispute with adult family, by children who go to another school, courtesy of information on your or their facebook page.
b) Then you have adults who feel aggrieved by a family member and take indirect action by harrassing a child on the way to school or on the way home again.
c) Kids can be cruel to each other for no other reason than they are kids and information about their likes and activities is often used to score points as they sort out their pecking order. In its extremes this can become bullying and to much information shared in happier days can provide ammunition that can be reframed to hurt the one being bullied.
d) Lastly, although I am sure there are other scenarios, there are the chilling examples of where children have been targeted by strangers or non family members based on information about sports events, dancing or music classes, or summer camps provided on Facebook.
The photo’s of your kids that you post on Facebook, are potentially harmful for three reasons.
a) Those great photo’s of your kids can be used by others to identify them, making it possible for your child to be targetted in the ways we talked about above.
b) Pictures of your kids in school uniform, or playing sport can provide information about school location or where they play sport or go to ballet class, to those with a mind to do you or them mischief.
c) Innocent pictures of naked babies or your infants running around in the nude, or even kids in swimwear or under-garments can put you and them at risk.
- At the lower end of the spectrum someone might find the images offensive, put in a complaint to Facebook and land you with account problems.
- The more concerning scenario is that your pictures fuel the fantasies of paediphiles and other child molesters individually or be downloaded by criminals to be distributed on websites and dvd’s around the world.
One of the great things about Facebook is that ability to share great moments that happen in your family and you can do that, but you have to limit those posts to Family and Close Friends. Once again check the post below, under the Computing Page on this site.
Another thing which can give you grief in your facebook life, and lots of strife with others.
3. Complaints Or Gossip About Work.
If You “vent” about your work life and relationships on Facebook it is likely to come back and bite you. Some examples:
- Flame wars that affect work relationships.
- A subordinate accuses you of workplace harrassment
- A Superior uses your outburst as an excuse to:
- Ridicule you
- Demote You
- Give you a negative annual assessment
- Fire You
- Put pressure on you for favors
- Showing you need to “get a life”
You do not need those tags attached to you
4. Any Financial Details
When I wrote this three years ago it seemed to me self evident, but the number of people I have spoken to during that time who share their financial details, like it was their gender or eye color, amazes me.
Then when they get scammed or the pressure is on to provide they complain.
Now this doesn’t just apply to Facebook, but all those sites where you might be talking with people and money could come up.
Some simple rules when conversing about money.
Don’t boast or even allude to your assets.
Why would you with someone you have never met in person or only recently met, especially if they are living in a third world country.
Wouuld you do it in the US, the UK, Australia, or Canada?
People who get scammed are sharing information, often exaggerated, to impress. You do not need to. You are impressive enough, just being a foreigner.
We don’t advise sending money at all until you are committed to the other person.
If you must, send it through a third party like Western Union. Sending money bank account to bank account can provide details you don’t really want to share.
Don’t make promises about what you will buy when you arrive.
Saying you will buy a house, a motorbike, a car, go to a resort island or stay in a high class hotel may result in a relationship continuing past its use by date.
Don’t ask advice from people online about how you should bring money for your holiday.
It is unecessary to bring large amounts of cash, as even in the provinces ATM’s are readily available. The small town where I live has two and a 25php bus ride yields four more. You can load credit or debit cards and use the ATM to draw on it. It is expensive though, but probably the safest option on your first trip.
Don’t put money into the account of a third party, to be kept until you return.
Open your own bank account and get both an ATM card and a passbook.
Do not let a third party do your bank depositing or draw money out for you using your ATM.
What Does This Say About Filipino’s?
Nothing really, Filipino’s are no more dishonest than the rest of humanity. In fact I could tell you many inspirational stories about Filipino honesty in extreme circumstances.
Your particular circumstances, being the one without the background knowledge of life here, exposes you to those who would part you from your assets.
The same applies anywhere. Get on a web page about being an expat in many other parts of Asia, European or Scandanavian countries, in South America and Africa and the same applies.
It is so important I created the Meme above.